Slow and Steady

[Jac12]

My W wants 50/50 custody of our son and is no longer willing to accept the other deal which was her being with him about 33% of the time.

During our talk she says to me: "Are you going to be ok telling our son that you kept his mother away from him?"

Like wtf? Does she not see that even at 50/50 she's taking him away from me too.

I'd love to turn the tables on her and ask how she would act if the roles were reversed: "W, imagine that one day out of the blue I tell you I don't love you anymore and don't want to work at it. Then I move out and leave our son with you. While I'm out, I barely contact you or son to check in. I also don't contribute financially even though I make 150k/year. On some of the days I'm supposed to spend with our son I decide to go hang out with friends instead and I leave him with grandma. Then when you tell me you're having a tough time making ends meet because you changed your job so you could be a full time mom, I act indifferent and still don't contribute financially. Then the doctor refers me to a psychiatrist and I choose not to go, despite admitting that I'm struggling. After 8 months of this, I then decide I want 50/50 custody. Would you be ok with that?"

I know what her answer would be. She thinks I'm being selfish - she doesn't see how selfish she's been for nearly a full year. How we have it worked out currently is fine - our son seems happy and not too affected by all this crap.