22 years gone

[rooskers]

Thanks Thorton, neffer, and AS I am doing really good in the letting go and detaching for myself. In fact, I really can't even imagine a life with my XW anymore. I was surprised the other day when D13 brought up a trip from the past and I realized I couldn't even recall if my XW had gone. She must have gone on the trip but I can't picture her being there at all.

The hard part is watching D13 struggle so hard. She goes to see her IC every week and that is helping somewhat. I think D13 realizes I am not hurting nearly as much anymore and now feels she doesn't have to be strong for me and can release her feelings of anger, hurt, and sadness. She shared her feelings before but now they are coming out full force. She is an amazingly strong young women but tells me she feels so broken inside and each time she tries to put two pieces together her mom breaks them into even smaller pieces. At lease that is a step up from a week ago when she said she was completely shattered and the pieces could never be put back together.

She says I have become an excellent listener. An example is yesterday I ironed her uniform skirt and shirt for school and she broke down in tears because she thinks that she looks horrible in a skirt. My first reaction was to tell her she is crazy and looks great in skirts, she was being to hard on herself, and try to fix her feelings. Now, I let her know that it can be difficult when we don't feel confident in what we are wearing and asked her which outfit helped her to feel more confident. When she told me I ironed that for her to wear to school instead. AnotherStander you have been a huge influence in this from all your posts I have read on this forum.