Regarding your ExW, I would think it’s very likely she’s a narcissist. If you read up on narcissism, you will probably notice a lot of your Ex’s traits.
Thorton I had a lot of trouble when all my friends and even XW own mother said this. She was always so happy, generous, caring, and didn't really brag about herself or exhibit characteristics of what I thought a narcissist was. A friend then sent me the following and it describes her perfectly. D13 has even noticed that she is already doing the following bolded things with her new friends and guys she is around. The last part is what is being done to me and has been for a long time. I never realized there were different types of narcissists.
Vulnerable Narcissist
The most prominent of vulnerable narcissism traits is a constant victimization mentality. They are always the victim, and always require sympathetic attention.
They are emotionally draining to be around. Mostly because of how sensitive they are on top of being emotionally demanding. Their mission in life is to get the people around them to see them as the perfect creatures they are.
Vulnerable narcissists are quite prone to developing depression. The life they live does not meet the fantasy of the life they feel entitled to.
There is an infuriating misconception among people who don’t understand personality disorders or mental illness, that people hurt themselves (or threaten to do so) because they are seeking attention. So, this needs to be said and understood with great caution: Vulnerable narcissists are one of the few people who to make threats of self-harm in order to get attention. They rarely follow through with it.
Vulnerable narcissists mostly appear introverted and calm. But emotional regulation can still be difficult for the confusing self-esteem issues they have.
The first line of narcissistic defenses includes being passive aggressive and shutting people out to punish them. They will always play the victim card because they will always see themselves as the victim. Regardless of the circumstances.
1st BD December 26, 2008 PA admitted to by XW December 29, 2008
2nd BD May 23, 2019 Daughter confirms EA Divorce Finalized July 18, 2019
