Quote: Where in the book does it explain how long you differentiate before you go?
What it DOES say is that this cannot be predicted. Chapter 13 or 14 deals with hitting Critical Mass, and what things are like at that stage. It can be a VERY scary time, because both partners realize at that point just what the stakes are. Another thing he says is that if you want to evaluate a counsellor, ask him or her what they do when they are SURE a couple should divorce. If they come up with ANY scenario, find another C, because no proper C would be able to evaluate something like that - it's up to the couple (or one of the partners). It takes two to make a marriage, but only one to end it...
