EW gave me BD on May 23 and left on May 24. She picked up all her stuff on May 25 and has never been back to the house again. May 28 we had one MC appointment in which she said nothing other than it is over and she doesn't want to meet again. Divorce was finalized on July 18. Since May 23 she has never brought up anything about our 22 year relationship or marriage. I have only talked to her on the phone since then 3 times and once the divorce was final it has only been through email. The only communication we have ever had has been her threatening me legally for stupid stuff, financial concerns, or visitation. I have physically seen her maybe 3-4 times since she left and each time was only for about 30 seconds to a minute.
Mostly this was just to journal because every so often I am still shocked with disbelief. The day before she left she was still telling me she loved me and looking forward to the Hawaii trip. I know now that was all a lie to keep me from understanding that she had been planning on leaving for a long time. It just seems shocking that she truly just walked away from her entire family of 22 years without a word about it then or now.
I think it hit me hard because D13 told me yesterday that she loved our family more than anything in the universe and she was angry her mom threw it away. I held her while she vented and shed a tear or two myself. Her mom won't let her bring up anything from the past or just quickly changes the subject when she is over there. D13 believes she is choosing to erase all memories about our family both good and bad so she can continue her desire for a clean slate.
It all seems such a waste
1st BD December 26, 2008 PA admitted to by XW December 29, 2008
2nd BD May 23, 2019 Daughter confirms EA Divorce Finalized July 18, 2019
