Yail, thank you so much for writing; it's always nice to see someone I don't "thread with" that often come by and weigh in, I need and want that very much!

I am not sure I totally know what you mean. I see what you mean in theory, but are you specifically talking about how I talk to my kids about the adultery? Also in the case of my son, he already refuses to see or speak to H since he left in June. H keeps writing to him saying he doesn't know why; he has forgotten that he abandoned S at BD and spent 6 years ignoring him! But I can't see any reason to sit S14 down and tell him about the adultery, unless I was sitting the kids down together. I always thought if I said anything it would need to come out of the context of something my kids said or asked. My D does see him and is now being forced to see the OW so I did think maybe I should say something more, but I am not sure what purpose it really serves. Doesn't it just add to D10's burden?

I understand what you are saying about growth. But I always get confused in application of ideas that make sense in theory!

Last edited by Gerda; 10/09/19 05:05 PM.
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Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.