Gerda Rises Up to Go On

[Gerda]

Grace, thank you so much for the encouragement, and I am glad my spiritual father was able to minister to you too. I am very lucky to have him, even though he has moved away from my city, he still writes to me when I ask him for advice.

I have noticed on your thread that you seem to be walking a fine line between doing what you have to do and letting some other forces creep into your vision of it. The whole divorce process is so focused on what is just and equitable, literally, that it makes me sometimes forget where to put my energy as far as what God wants. For example, I think that fighting to keep my kids in their home and community is something I can stand for. But trying to get some of the extra monetary things that would be right but would require a lot of vicious fighting, I am willing to let go of those. I have taken care of everything myself since BD and before it without any help from H. Using the court to get him to do what's right now is not of interest to me if it requires that I turn as ugly as H has turned. I am fighting as long as I can keep my kids in our home but that's my outer limit for this mess.

(((Grace))))))