Talks about reconciling he’s continuing to just say he’s fearful . Maybe we are better together . Maybe we are better apart . I validate about fears . Just saying yes it can be frightening.
Good. Don't steer him in any particular direction, just listen and validate.
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But I’m starting to notice maybe I am giving too much of my positive side and it may be unknowingly pursuit . Because my input is met with silence . Almost as if I need to make these R talks one sided . He talks .... I just listen . Give not much back .
Yes exactly. Don't offer your own opinion, just let him talk and you just listen. He's trying to sort things out in his head and is just talking to you to hear himself out loud.
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But he’s still so confused. Says it . Believe none of what they say ? Half of what they do ? I don’t even know which half to believe. The half when he’s with me and peaceful or the half when he leaves .
Definitely believe him when he says he's confused, because that part is true for sure.
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Low n behold he walks in with sweets for me . Goal definitely for me is to learn not to smother someone . Baby steps today but felt good.
Throw me some 2x4s I may need a few
Not sure you need them, you're doing pretty well it sounds like! He's starting to pursue so your DB'ing is working. This isn't the time to break into pursuit because if you do he'll run. Just keep up your DB'ing and celebrate the baby steps internally. This would be a good time to increase GAL. Go out with some friends and dress to kill, let him see you leaving. It'll eat him up.
