You sound like you are doing well, and I am glad you are not snooping. More will be revealed as time progresses, and without R there is really no need to push for anything.
Last week you mentioned talks about separating / divorce, the quickest D discussions ever. Custody was resolved, and I believe you are ok with the arrangements. At the time financial stuff was in a few days. Did you two talk and/or reach an arrangement here as well?
I would like you to consider speaking to a lawyer about this and getting those agreements in place and signed. A lot of MLCers are nice and friendly at the beginning and will make amicable and fair agreements. Then, in a while, those friendly hand shake arrangements are no longer around, as absent as one’s spouse. It can become a real battle to find a resolution at the point, never mind a peaceful one.
I suspect that this probably feels wrong and grates against you. It is counterintuitive, part of focus on, and protect, you and the kids. Get Information, and be ready if things start to go more sideways then they already have. Today’s MC session might shed some further light on how urgent this might be.
I totally agree with your hoping for the best and planning for the worst. This is part of that planning, and can be undone if things get better.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
