[may22]

Hey Caligirl, just wanted to say hang in there!! You are strong and doing great! I see a lot of similarities in our situations and I also find it really hard to GAL and act detached when the H is home and being sweet/friendly/fun, plus when GAL means giving up time with the kids. My main differences are that I know there was an EA and as of the last R talk he still has feelings for her; mine is living at home (just moved back to the bedroom a couple of weeks ago) but isn't talking about our R like yours is. Reading through your thread is really motivating for me-- thank you for keeping up your posting. You are a great example! One thing I might share that could be helpful in your situation too- I am talking with a DB coach and she suggested treating him like a beloved houseguest (maybe a little more connected than with a friendly neighbor?) and also that spending fun quality time together as a family is good, OK to compliment him on things like being a good dad (especially if that is a 180 for you), all as long as you are avoiding pursuing behaviors and words. Of course our situations are not exactly the same but close enough that her advice might be helpful for you too.