Confused and Lost

[SoTorn]

Yes you jumped too quickly at her crumbs. You need to go dark. Ignore her unless its very important. She may be telling you she loves you. But words mean nothing. Actions mean everything.

Seven days is just a tiny blip in your situation and is in no way enough time for you to detach. Thats why you picked up the phone and talked to her. It takes a very long time to detach. In my situation my exww started mistreating me around October 2017. It got bad around spring 2018. Got BD in August 2018. Confirmed A October 2018. It took literally every ounce of my emotional energy to pry my exww from my heart.

I went dim as I lived with her and focused solely on myself. I took the hard route and accepted that my MR was over and that I would not move forward with a cheater. She wish washed on divorce but I stayed steady and forged my way. By January 2019 I was content that my MR was over and that I would be D. March she filed for D. May 17th it was done. Moved out June 1st.

It hurt but it was necessary for my emotional wellbeing and sanity to just forget about the woman I once loved because the person she is now is not that person and will never be again.

You got this. Start planning activities for yourself. Make sure that all of your spare time is used up focusing on yourself. Focus on yiur health, pick up a new hobby or start a new one. Get out and into the world. You deserve better. Once you find yourself and the less you allow her to keep you on the hook, the better you will feel.

Its imperative that you detach yourself. You will never move forward if you dont. She will feed you just enough crumbs to keep you hooked as long as you are gobbling them up. She is manipulating you severely. Put a stop to it.