Thanks for the advice. I have tried so many times to detach and really remove her from my heart. I gave her a letter that I had spent over a month revising basically informing her that I would no longer allow the OW to be a part of my life and that as long as she saw fit to be involved, I would not be available. We didn't speak or see each other for 7 days and I was starting to do well. Imagining a life with or without, hanging out with friends, enjoying being alone. Of course on day 7 she called broken and crying saying that she would do anything, end everything with OW, MC, etc and that she did not want to lose me. I caved way too quickly. Things were fantastic for a solid month. She moved home, ended contact with OW, said things were getting better for her. AND....BOOM.. another BD with the revelation that she thinks she rushed back home and she isn't sure and wanted to move out to work on herself. Contact resumed with OW and now here we are again.
I just don't understand how people can be so solid in detaching from someone they truly enjoy spending time with. It would be so much easier to detach if she was a jerk, hateful, or made it uncomfortable to talk/hangout.
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
