My wife did the same thing your WW did. She came to me out of no where and asked could I set up counseling for us. After me asking months prior and her saying no. She came up with a few excuses after I made the first appointment, and I had to reschedule once or twice. I never got impatience and I didn't badger her about going.
IMO, since she asked I would go and listen to what she has to say and what the counselor could probably get thru to her.
My wife got asked some questions by the counselor we went and saw that had her questioning her choices. Will that happen for your W. I don't know. Just giving my experience. I will say, this first counseling session is not a time to start blaming and looking to knock you W over her head. It's a great time to listen and hear what's causing her some many problems. Even, if they aren't true, they are her beliefs and she has a right to hold them.
Joejoe
I appreciate the input. Regardless of what happens we are tied together forever because we have 2 kids together. I would like to hear what she has to say currently about things without her twisting my words around whenever she has a chance to. Which is why I’m contemplating a going to a session or two. But if she doesn’t give some sort of concrete action that the A is over i can’t see how it is a beNefit to continue. But I also agree with the above. If she won’t end the A, it’s difficult to try and do anything with our relationship.
It drives me nuts that she isn’t able to see reason in this state. I also was like seriously you want to do counseling but you won’t pause the D paperwork.
M:39 W:36 D: 4 D: 2 BD:8/22/2019 Currently dealing with a WW
