Persistent Endurance (Part 6)

[MrBrside]

I hear all of you crystal clear. It seems I am back at square one. If W has ended her A’s with the OM for good, then does that make her a WAW rather than a WW?

I know the same rules apply, but at least I don’t have to endure the pain of being cheated on. I’ve had several starts and stops with DBing in my sitch. I allowed many triggers to set me back. These were mostly due to new revelations surrounding her interactions with the OM.

Curtis, you have never got past square one. A good start at square one would have been to detach and reduce contact. You did neither unless it was instigated by your WAW.. You have allowed her to cake eat from day 1, always on her terms. People have been saying to get rid of the horse for 6 months, yet you allow her to pop round and carry on as normal. She has the best of both worlds.

You tried to justify your actions by saying you were fighting for the M for the sake of the children. Most people get that "mind set" but again, its proven time, time and time again that your "fighting for the M" wont work.

You say on one of your posts that you are anayltical and spent hours and hours going through the posts of peopke hand picking the ones where their actions have made a positive impact on a WAW.. Yiou found a couple of positive examples but in the process you chose to ignore the other 1000s of posts where generally people dont ride off into the sunset on a horse.

You are verging on obsessed with making your M work, but the stats really are not in your favour, but you chose to ignore the fact that only 2% of these sitchs make M 2.0 work after 5 years.. And you are no where near Marrige 2.0..

You have the best Vets on this board advising you on every post, but you chose to ignore their "expect" advice.. They have been here for a long time, have first hand experience and have seen people like us come and go all the time.. Yet you chose to ignore this advice because of feel the fact your WAW is no longer messaging OM3, or because she hugged you because her friends husband died etc.

This may come across as harsh, but in my eyes you are verging on obsessed with your WAW. You dont listen to her, you ignore the advice here and you carry on doing anything and everything you can to persue her.. A lot of people of this board have been there, but i dont many that are still barelly trying to detach after this amount of time... After 9 months of her not wanting you, it kinda comes across as a little obsessive / stalkerish.