You aren't listening are using the advice here, that is evident from your comments you are leaving on your thread. I told you, you are applying to much pressure in my prior post. Guess what you still are doing that behavior.
You have 180 the things you wanted to 180. How about you 180 applying pressure, how about 180 applying DB advice. Because you aren't using them at the moment.
Every post you write has a hint of, "my wife has done this minuscule thing" and then you jump to acting like the M might be back on. She told you that RV was too much pressure and you follow up with trying to get her to work on the assignments. You can't force a person to be with you.
You are talking about the A being over, and how it's has made you feel better knowing the A is over. WHAT!!!!! If you were DBing her A and whatever she's doing wouldn't be bothering you.
You say things like, " I’m sure DBing is easier when the LBS is not being actively betrayed." This is one of the main reasons to DB. Making a statement like that shows your progress!!! It's not that much.
So let's add it up:
We told you to get rid of the horses or let your WW know she needs to come get her horses: Horses are still at your home.
We said, stop interacting with your WW and talking about your R and M: Just this past weekend end, you spent the weekend talking about exactly that.
We told you to stop applying pressure: Just this weekend you ramp up the pressure.
We told you to you need time and space away from your WW: You spent this weekend practically begging her to come back to you.
We told you to work on getting your respect back: You spent this weekend losing respect.
So, you haven't work to gain your RESPECT back, you haven't gave her TIME or SPACE, you haven't stopped the R and M talks, you haven't stopped applying PRESSURE, you haven't gotten rid of the horses or told her she needs to come and find a place for them (which in my opinion is an excuse for you to see your WW).
So where are the changes happening at. You profess you have 180ed some behaviors, which ones?
Joejoe
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
