Persistent Endurance (Part 6)

[curtis7]

When I posted about Retrouvaille a week ago, many of the replies were that she was still in an A and I needed to cut her off completely. I sensed something different, she had changed ever so slightly. I can’t expect her to come running back immediately, although I had hopes as I was reaching the end of my tolerance for living in an open MR.

I hear all of you crystal clear. It seems I am back at square one. If W has ended her A’s with the OM for good, then does that make her a WAW rather than a WW?

I know the same rules apply, but at least I don’t have to endure the pain of being cheated on. I’ve had several starts and stops with DBing in my sitch. I allowed many triggers to set me back. These were mostly due to new revelations surrounding her interactions with the OM.

I disagree that I’ve made zero progress in the past year. W has noticed my 180s. I am more detached. I don’t spy or snoop anymore. Once I found out the worst, I stopped that behavior. I’m sure DBing is easier when the LBS is not being actively betrayed. Believing that the A is over has sure had a calming effect on me and should allow for greater patience with time and space.

I really have tried to follow much of the advice given here. I need to follow the guidance Master Yoda: “Do or do not. There is no try.”

The 2x4’s are well deserved. I do feel re-inspired and more confident today and will do my best to DB.