Today we are supposed to continue the counseling discussion from the other day as I told her I need to think about it over the weekend. She pressed me for a date on it. She has made comments about me being passive aggressive with the way I handled things with the lawyer and a few other things. I need to respond to her filing paper work so I was planning to be upfront with her and tell her that I will be requesting 50/50 with custody of the kids and that I plan to keep the house and move forward with the renovation plans. Basically to let her know I’m not rolling over and that I’m moving on with life weather or not she is there. Plus the added benefit to this is the home front stays consistent for the kids, we live in a safe neighborhood with good schools. Also the mortgage is affordable for me but not something she could afford. Also she signed herself off the mortgage a few weeks before the BD because her credit wasn’t good and effecting are rate. We currently are back at square one from a equity stand point since it was a how equity renovation loan. We have made one payment so far. Refinancing again will erase any equit that would of been regained because of closing costs. So it makes no sense not to proceed.
So with GAL does doing projects in the garage count/ on the house. Or am I too present with that. One of her complaints was that I would prioritize hobbies and projects over her/family. So I’ve been sticking to moderation on that kind of stuff especially when came to projects in the garage. I was a bit of a workaholic at times. This is something I moved away from after the kids were born but I still had a tendency to go over board with things.
Last edited by MJ1980; 10/07/1905:51 PM.
M:39 W:36 D: 4 D: 2 BD:8/22/2019 Currently dealing with a WW
