W told me she bought a desk at a garage sale for the other house. I must of had a look on my face of displeasure and W noticed.
Curtis, that's an expectation and pressure. Look friend, I relate. Yesterday, my partner said, "I picked out a couch--soon we can snuggle more comfortably at my place, too!" I heard, "I love you, but I don't plan to return anytime soon." The difference is that I'd accepted the loss already--see my blogging yesterday--so instead of a sad face I replied, "I enjoy snuggling with you." I didn't temp-check. I'd already felt the loss and mourned it. I hope for more. I accept reality. I choose how I respond.
You said a few times you would tell a friend to do differently than you are doing. Are you your own friend? You should be! "So, your wife's been wayward with at least 3 OM this past year, has no feelings for you, has asked for true separation.... you should.." how would you finish that advice.. for a friend?
