Dan, if you're still reading, I'm curious which one you got? I've been curious lately about life, health, and wellness coaching certificates as they synergize well with preparing people for outdoor adventures.
Engaged? After 7 months of dating? You're crazy. I wish you the best of luck...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Obviously it’s all one sided but many of your wives or ex’s do not currently deserve to be in a relationship with you. If she were a new woman would you “ wife her up or hit it and quit it”.
Absolutely would not even consider going out with my XW if she were a stranger I was just meeting. Most definitely would not "hit it", LOL! I would look at her now and say "no, not my type". She's not the woman I met 30 years ago that I vibed with right away. I am not disparaging her in any way, she is still a wonderful mother and she is a kind and caring person. Just not what I would consider relationship material.
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If she’s not wife material at this point do not treat her as such. She will just pull further away. Give all your energy to yourself - building a positive future and taking care of children, never accept less than 50/50 custody and stop pursuing your ex partner if she left you. That relationship is over. Cut the chord.
100% agree, although I know all too well it's difficult to do after you've been BD'd. It takes a while before you can get to this point!
Obviously it’s all one sided but many of your wives or ex’s do not currently deserve to be in a relationship with you. If she were a new woman would you “ wife her up or hit it and quit it”.
Absolutely would not even consider going out with my XW if she were a stranger I was just meeting. Most definitely would not "hit it", LOL! I would look at her now and say "no, not my type". She's not the woman I met 30 years ago that I vibed with right away. I am not disparaging her in any way, she is still a wonderful mother and she is a kind and caring person. Just not what I would consider relationship material.
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If she’s not wife material at this point do not treat her as such. She will just pull further away. Give all your energy to yourself - building a positive future and taking care of children, never accept less than 50/50 custody and stop pursuing your ex partner if she left you. That relationship is over. Cut the chord.
100% agree, although I know all too well it's difficult to do after you've been BD'd. It takes a while before you can get to this point!
Funny, because this is precisely the point I just made in my own thread.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Good to hear your update Did! It's amazing how much life can change in 6 months! keep working it!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
