Re: A familiar story with questions TEN

[RR17]

Thanks for asking, Neffer.

Well, I saw this today and had planned to respond that after the last blow up that all had calmed down and we continue to live as roommates with my plan to be out by year's end. I often cook and we continue to watch some TV a couple times a week. Much like life has been for the last year.

That was until this evening.

So the youngest D17 had a birthday today. We went to dinner with the ILs and all was just swell. Once we got home D17 starts to act a little moody. I ask if she is okay and I kind of got the brush off. Later I see W and D17 embraced and wonder what is going on. I had not heard of any plans with D17 and her BF or mention of a birthday gift from him. So I assume it is surrounding this. W comes down and I ask her what's going on. She dramatically says that that little girl is suffering from the toxic atmosphere in the home. And how W is going to do something about it.
I asked what I was doing wrong and inquired about the said toxic atmosphere. Well, that didn't go over well as she had no explanation. As is her usual MO she started talking about dynamics from years ago that obviously can't be fixed now.
I stopped her, reminded her of how she never wanted the past thrown in her face and I wasn't about to tolerate it either.

I explained that I am doing the best I can, as well as I know. Besides, D17 wants for nothing, has use of a car and except for not sleeping in the same room, her parents get along most all of the time.

I asked again what it is that I need to do differently. No reply. Finally, in the usual fashion, she gets dismissive and with a few huffs and puffs storms out.

So that is how things are now going. Fun times. I realize that I will continue to get blamed whether I deserve it or not.
My spirits are good. I can't be responsible for everyone else's feelings. I just focus on being a better me.