I validated and said I understand you feel you want the kids to learn that about you and I understand. I then said the kids will not need to have that view point of me as I will always try to answer or call back .
Great response--validating that you understand his view, then stating your own. Since my sitch is now in a more healthy range, that's what I strive to do as well, and I see its usefulness in your co-parenting.
