I'm on my fourth marriage. At any point in the breakdowns of my situations, (all infidelity related) alcohol had an extremely negative impact on every aspect of them. Never the cause but it always complicated the interactions.
Wow... 4th marriage. You are one brave person I'm considering done with marriages, if this doesn't work out.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Find something better to do like hang out with friends, go play a sport, walk through the pretty part of town,or go read at a coffee shop. Don't go to meet her. She's just seeing if she can control you and to see if you want her bad enough to go pursue her at this meeting. And if you go she's going to toy with you and play mind games.
I really hope WW just wants to discuss how to move forward in any direction, and not playing games. I never thought of her as one to play games, but I guess if someone is to have an A, then they are clearly willing to play games...
I am not going to pursue. I am fully aware that she really needs to figure her stuff out, otherwise this will just happen again in the future. We do have to discuss how to deal with shared finances still while we are in limbo for awhile.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Here's my question to you- do you even want to be married to a serial cheater? Are you holding onto the hope that maybe she will change and stop this behavior? And what if she doesn't?
I thought about this. I guess we both made so many mistakes in our relationship, and we finally hit rock bottom and finally now openly discussing our issues. I would like to have the opportunity to put forth our best selves, understanding that it may still not work out. Maybe that's why everyone is here.
I also realize that this requires WW to want to work on it also, which is hard with AP/OM involved right now.
Looking for more input from vets, and if anyone can get ahold of Sandi, since she is quite the expert on WW
I'm considering done with marriages, if this doesn't work out.