Reconnect with your family and friends, make new friends, and never let those relationships fall by the wayside again. Make it a point to stay connected. It's too important.
You should be the rock - for yourself, your woman, your family and friends. Everyone has weak moments and for that you have one or two friends or family members to confide in or lean on, but otherwise just be the rock. It's not hard to accomplish once you establish the mindset.
You know what you have to do. You can do it. You have a fantastic life ahead that is waiting for you, you just have to reach out and take it.
I have to create my own support network, piece by piece. I have a theory this is why so many D'd men jump right back into the rebound relationship.
These 3 months of separation have been really bizarre. Sometimes I feel like I am in my 20s, leaving dirty dishes in the sink, doing laundry whenever I want. I feel... not as much of an adult. I saw a quote recently: "Your kids will never remember how clean you kept your house." But I have seen glimpses of the fantastic life you talk about. Special moments with my kids, moments I didn't have as often before. Sunset surfing on the beautiful Pacific Ocean. Buliding my own kitchen table. Honestly, I know it's right there for the taking, I just need to exchange 3 custody days every 2 weeks and everything else will sort it self out =)
Gekko, I always like reading your thread because you sound in command. I'm guessing you don't have the same NGS tendencies as many of us here. It helps a lot to realize the faultiness in my thinking at times.
