You probably didn't mean to set me down this path but you got me thinking:
I need to let go of outcomes. I learned to do this with my MR. Now I need to do it with other aspects of my life. I need to get out of my engineering problem solver mindset which just provokes intense anxiety.
I want 50-50 with my kids. Maybe I will get it. Maybe I won't. Maybe I'll be in a nasty court battle, maybe I won't. I can fight for what I want, but whether or not I get that, I need to be prepared to live a happy fulfilling life. Is that not what DB is all about? Being prepared to handle anything life throws our way?
My relationship with my kids is important. But it also doesn't define me. I do not need to live and die by the outcome. I will fight for what I want. But I do not need to be afraid. These relationship outcomes, whether as a husband, father, son, or friend -- do not define who I am. They are not the measuring stick of a man.
