I was and am not mad at W and I told her that at BD. It shocked her when I said it. She even asked if I wanted to yell at her, that it would make me feel any better.
I said, "Would it change anything?"
She said, "No."
And then I said, "so there's no point. You said what you are feeling, and I respect that. You were honest, you told me, so what should I be mad about?"
She didn't know what to say.
Of course I was an emotional wreck at the time, but I held it together long enough for that conversation.
They are in another world, because of the various emotional trauma they have been through in the past. That is why they say the things they say and do the things they do, and that is why they do not make any sense.
It is like trying to reason with a two year old who says "no" to everything. It cannot be done.
All we can do is sympathize and show empathy. And we have to take care of ourselves.
