I'm not. I can't afford IC. She agreed to start paying CS in June, but now they're fighting to start it in August using some claims that they are lying about.
Even alpha can be mentally abused. I'm not the "poor me" type. I never have been. But when dealing with an NPD or BPD...all bets are off. I've been doing GREAT for a long time. 4 months ago she tried to say she wanted to come back and that she wasn't seeing this OM.
The part that bothers me isn't that she's doing that. What REALLY bothers me is that I legally have to trust that she'll make good decisions for S when she's tried to edge me out of it on my time, has attempted to legally restrict me from getting help from my family, and her mom is just as bad (if not more experienced at this stuff).
We had a meeting with S's school counselor and teacher. W tried to derail the talk and use it as a platform to complain about his after-school care. They told her they couldn't do anything about it, she kept pursuing it. She was telling them that she would go pick him up from there...I had to interject because she told me that she wasn't using the after-school program. I said "You told me you weren't using them..." so she decided to ramp up the victimhood game..."well, YOU want to use it, so I use it because YOU want to" (she had always said she wanted to pick S up every day so I didn't have to use an after-school program). At that point I told the teacher/counselor that she had gone to the after-school care people, got into a yelling match with the staff, and she called the police on them.
Since then, she's back in "make him pay for embarrassing me" mode. Why? She told her mom (who told the rest of her family) that I was "mean" to her when I called her out for trying to manipulate S's school into getting involved in something they have no business in.
See, it's not about being alpha or not. She's made it clear (and yeah, it's gotten back to me that this IS the reality) that she wants me to suffer for making her look bad (because she can't see that she's the one doing the stupid stuff that makes her look bad).
She's a total piece of work.
The picture didn't really hurt because I expected it. But when you take ALL of the factors into consideration, she's absolutely trying to cause me trouble. And that's the exhausting part.
