IH- lol! It is very frustrating isn't it! Frustrating and confusing. All of this behavior you describe, in most cases it's coming from a person who was previously stable, loving and loyal. I don't know what in the world happens that flips that switch but a lot of them certainly go all Jeckle & Hyde on us. In my case I never really did get angry at my XW, I think this place and Michele's books had a lot to do with that because both helped me see things from her perspective, and understand that she was hurting and in pain as well. And that she was acting on emotions and LOGICALLY didn't understand why she was doing it. She said many times "I don't know what's wrong, I just don't want to be married anymore" and I think that is the case for a lot of WAS's. They might say it's because you didn't do this or that in the M but in most cases the things they are complaining about weren't a problem for them years ago, so why now? Because they are trying hard to justify something they can't explain or even understand.
