I believe you accurately captured your situation. Nice job! Really sharp sword, and bright shield.
Now, do not give in to his crazy demands. This horrible proceeding will not last forever. I would not give to much credence to H or his lawyer’s screaming rants. Just because something is louder doesn’t make it more true.
However, when your L expresses concern over timetables and such, listen to him. Seek to understand why he is recommending what he is. Remember he is on your side.
You lawyer, from what you have said, sounds rather nice and levelheaded. With custody being already settled, further disruption to you and the kids isn’t a court priority. Sorry to be blunt here. The court is now only splitting assets and figuring out support and alimony. Lawyers have seen lots of this stuff and get a pretty good feel for when and how to go about reaching the best deal.
This part is definitely business. Stick to business. Get your best deal - and only you can define what is “best”.
I could be way off base here. I think trying to stave off disruption until summer, is going to be a problem.
All this being said, you are being reasonable and fair. And dealing with H, a man who has lost the plot, and doesn’t care or understand about reasonable and fair anymore.
Originally Posted by Gerda
I am not really even sure what I am asking here.
I don’t think you’re specifically asking for anything.
I think you are finding an accurate and accepting view. Pulling it all together.
I really liked your post. You stated lots of things, problems, and concerns. However, I didn’t see any fears. Just concerns. Was really wonderful to see. Did you notice that?
Gerda, you are one strong lady. You can handle concerns. And you know you don’t have to do it alone.
Sword and shield.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
