I can't echo more what AS, LH, and Rooskers have said.
I know custody is tough but get 50/50 now instead of delaying it for the future. You don't know how amenable W will be in the future to make amendments to your separation and divorce agreements. You're just kicking a whirl of trouble down the road rather than dealing with it all right now.
With how things have gone down with your W, I couldn't agree more about talking through these things with a lawyer on your side. We never want things to be adversarial, but taking precaution is better than regretting it later. Don't make any agreements that are off the cuff. I know this $ucks, but keep in mind you are trying to protect and have what's best for the children.
And like AS said, she's telling you stuff right outta the script. Don't believe any of it. Also, it's a ridiculous expectation that you should've read her mind and done things differently.
Hang in there! The other side of all of this nonsense is glorious. Right now protect yourself and your kids. The other stuff will come.
