Separated and sorting #3

[rooskers]

our Choice is literally between outcomes 1 or 2. These are your options. Right now you are actively choosing Option 1 based on your actions. If you want to, you can change your track and choose Option 2. The steps are easy - don't go to MC, retain a lawyer, instruct them to file for divorce or legal separation with 50-50 custody, fixed period of spousal support, and force the sale of the house, and communicate with your waw solely through email, cc'ing your lawyer.

unchien I have been following your sitch since I got here and have couple thoughts since I went through the whole divorce process with custody issues. It sounds like you are on at least speaking terms with your W and are able to communicate somewhat reasonably with her. Be prepared that all this will change when the D starts to happen. No NGS during the divorce and please please please get a lawyer. She decided to leave a long time ago and has been planning since. She is light years ahead of you in thinking about custody, finances, where to live, and going over scenarios on how to be in the best position after (you may not believe it but it is true). She has likely already talked to many people about how to be in the best position possible to get your money and the children. You have been blindsided and have been working on self improvement in hopes of reconciliation. She has not. If you are going through with D stop talking now, because everything will be used against you in court. All communication should go through lawyer or email. Do not agree to anything unless you have had lawyer look at it. If you thought W changed her attitude towards you when she walked away just wait for the divorce to happen.

My XW talked to me before the D and told me what she wanted and we agreed on everything. It seemed to good to be true. I found out behind my back she was talking to her friends on how best she could hurt me. She never cussed in her life when we were together but I saw texts from her to her friends that used every four letter word possible against me. At the same time she was talking with her friends I would get emails from her that were friendly and nice. I hope that is not the case with you but please unchien protect yourself.