Midlife wife crisis10

[Wolfman]

Wolf I think your W is BPD with histronic negative thinking. It takes one to know one.

You really think so? I really don’t know who she is anymore. Certainly not the woman I married. I miss the woman I married but it looks like she is gone!!!

Sounds like a whole bunch of projecting to me. And I don't think anyone told her anything, she suspects you are involved with OW and is trying to trick you into admitting it by lying and saying everyone is talking about it.

Again my question is why? At this point why does she care? She is the one who wants divorce? Why does she care if I am dating? Is it because she is losing her planB?

..."you're dating someone I know" part as well, hoping you'd feel inclined to respond with "you don't know the person I'm dating" and then she would say "AHA so you ARE dating someone!"

It's none of her business Wolfie. This is YOUR life now to do with as you please.

At this point why would she care? Why does she want to “catch” me dating someone? Is it ok for me to date?

She's acting like a child, so treat her like one. Remove yourself from any and all situations that has nothing to do with the kids.

She is absolutely acting like a selfish child. Again, no idea who this woman is. She only focuses on the negative in life but has made me enemy #1. She has become even more self absorbed, on her phone 24/7, constantly yelling at the kids and doesn’t want to be bothered with them. She has done a 180 from the person I married.

I call the kids every morning to wish them a good day at school. I always ask them how did they sleep, are they getting ready, are they behaving, what they had for breakfast. So yesterday morning I call my d and ask the same questions, she just gives me one word answers. Then my s gets on and ask the same questions. My w gets on and says why do you ask them what they have for breakfast? Do you think I don’t feed them in the morning? I said I know you do just have a conversation with my kids. She said I don’t understand why you need to know what they are eating. I said it’s because they don’t say much and just trying to get them to talk. She went on a little more about it. The. We ha g up and I get a text from her: I guess I should be asking them what they eat when they are with you?

I respond: I’m just striking up conversation with them. They don’t say much.

She responds:I can’t imaging you would be checking up bc I have always fed my children well and make them eat even when they aren’t hungry.

I have no idea where this is coming from. I ask the same questions every morning just to get them to talk. She is losing her mind.

Feelings thoughts?