4 months in....(Re: Advice needed)

[peacetoday]

There is nothing wrong with an apology
simple and short to clear the air-to embrace our part in it
But with no expectations because the other person might blame you and take no responsibility at all-

In my opinion,This is a tough situation even for MLC land
He doesnt want to let you go-

was it because he and OW broke up?
did he break up with her to try to get you back
Is he too confused to do anything

He is obviously still connected to her and what concerns me is if he fights with you and then her will he continue to go back and forth
Is he running from his pain to either you or her
Will this type of behavior continue?
to keep you hooked in
I would watch his actions as DNJ says very carefully
dont overlook any details

Is he willing to really let her go and work on the Relationship
Will he work on his side of things
You will be able to see if he is really ready to work with you-
just watch him

Is he going to keep you hooked in while he plays and decides

Decide what is true and best for you

He will have to figure his issues out
and remember MLC is childhood issues unresolved, so you cant help him with his pain-
and if he cant resolve his issues, he will repeat and repeat

I would get some DB coaching

for your pain
feel it
embrace it
then let it go
you did nothing wrong
you are a women trying to save a M
Trust yourself