I'm on my fourth marriage. At any point in the breakdowns of my situations, (all infidelity related) alcohol had an extremely negative impact on every aspect of them. Never the cause but it always complicated the interactions.
I like to drink too.
Not a lot but I like to have a drink or two at night or on the weekend to chill. Since my BD on Aug 11, I think I've had maybe 5-10 beers spread over three occasions.
Every time I've had even one beer, my W has been able to bait me into an argument. While in it, I haven't been able to DB, validate or anything successfully. My inhibitions and judgement go out the window because since BD, my mind is always on edge and I'm barely able to control my mouth anyway. My desire to tell her how pissed I am and what she's done to me and my family is always right there.
Just give it up for now or at least when you're around her and find something else to do. If you want to drink, go somewhere where she won't be and don't answer the phone or TMs. If you can't restrain yourself from answering, leave your phone home or where you're not. Whatever you do, don't drink with her.
If you don't, you'll lose.
Just my opinion. Good luck.
Totally agree with ovrr.
Me 56 W 42 T14 M12 ILYBINILWY 08/07/19 BD 08/11/19 Discovered Whaaaat? 2 Kids One DD 30mos Adopted from Foster 12/18 One DS 17mos Adopting First week of Sept 19 Separate BR 08/15/19
