I am really sorry to hear your update. I know that [censored] but in a way I wonder if you don't feel some relief? I know I did when my ex told me she would file.
I would caution you to not believe her time line on when she "fell out of love with you". It was most likely that she was planning her escape for years. That is why she put in no effort in MC because she had already checked out. I read once that 80% of couples who attend MC attend to late once at least one has already checked out.
Trust me that there is a high probability that years down the road she is more then likely going to wish she would have tried harder to save the marriage. I think she is really going to struggle with three young kids.
The last thing I want to say is I would not except anything less then 50/50 right away. You have son/s so it's important for them to have their father as much as possible. I don't care if you need to move next door to your W. Don't settle for less!
I know your hurting now but I promise you it does get better and you are a man who takes self improvement serious and will come out of this a better and stronger person.
