Just journaling what occurred today. When she was here to pick up things the other night the little one mentioned that she had been to church Sunday and had a lot of fun. She asked me if I really went, in which I produced the brochure along with the notes I took during the sermon. When she was leaving she mentioned to the little one that she would see her Thursday. Well Thursday night at our church they have a men’s only ministry. I’ve never attended but after having someone pray with me after service on Sunday, she suggested I check it out and build bonds with strong Christ centered men. So I brought this up to the wife, I said I would like to attend Thursday and check it out. Problem is that they do not offer any child care like they do on Sunday. So I asked the wife if she would pick up the little one from aftercare and they could come to the house while I attend church as she still has things here that she wants to finish getting to her place. She agreed and I thought it was pretty much set in stone until today when she reached out via text and this is the transcript:

Her: So are you still going to that church thing tomorrow ?
Me: Yes. It’s every Thursday.
Me: I can make alternative arrangements if it conflicts with your schedule. No biggie
Her: A convention is in town and my boss asked if I could work . But don’t wanna mess up our plans
Me: It’s not a problem. Do what you need to do. Work is more important.
Her: No it isn’t . Lol nvmd
Me: You can work tomorrow and have D5 Saturday for the fall festival if your mom wants to watch her Saturday night. I can get her before church Sunday.
Me: I know seeing and spending time with D5 tomorrow was important to you which is why I suggested Saturday. So you can have the best of both worlds. I’m not being mean or anything
Me: You mentioned last week that you needed hours. Just let me know what you decide.
Her: The festival is the 12th and 13th
Her: I’m just off sat just cause
Me: Ok. Whatever you want to do tomorrow is fine.
**end of contact**

Did I handle this appropriately as far as going dark and trying to detach? Should I have been more vague and less wordy? Obviously I had to reply as it was based upon our D5 and my intent to have them spend time together while I was trying to GAL and focus on support from fellow church members.