Uhh.... Tell her to get on her fawkin horse, go west, and ride into the fastasy fog sunset. Curtis. Maybe you should watch Pet Cemetery a few times to see what happens when you bury your wife and keep digging her up again. (Alright Ill try not to be an A hole.) I get moments in my day where I feel like my life is over, I want to end it all, and them, Ill never be good enough, I can't change, I don't have a future, I'm mad, angry, resentful, forgiving, understanding, compassionate, all in the same 10 minutes...Every time this happens and my mind goes crazy about how to emotionally handle it. I eat something (Because I get negative and depressed when I'm hungry.) I say out loud. " I release you, I let you go, you no longer have power over me, my thoughts and my emotions. Then I tell myself, I must change. I must heal, and I must release this anger and stay commited to the process. I am without therapy, I have a very short temper, am a very emotional person, with a very low frustration tolerance, and a racing anxious mind with a lot of guilt from all of my relationships. I must contain and monitor my emotions, correct my internal dialog, rebuild myself and my confidence, and focus on exclusively me, what I can control, and how I show up. etc. These are just states, and old repetitive habits Curtis. Thinking about what was, is not what currently is, and we need to be aware of that. People want to be where they want to be for whatever reason they justify, right, wrong, or indifferent, and we must leave them there. But we can protect ourselves, and respond firmly with dignity, without being reactive facetious, OR WEAK!!! YOU ARE THE PRIZE CURTIS! You just don't realize it yet! Love is a choice and attraction dies for numerous reasons. Being a doormat, insecure, co dependant, needy, not enforcing boundaries, placating, words not matching actions, represent, bordeom, narcissistic behavior, delusional realities, take your pick. Control the frame, control your emotions, control your current reality, control your situation. She is never going to respect you if she lost it for you, and went WW. At this point in the game it shouldn't matter. She shouldn't matter. Her respect for you or opinion for you shouldn't matter. Have a backbone, keep your morals, your strength, your castle and your example for your kids. Don't ever give your strength to someone that no longer wants you. I've been weak plenty of times and strong plenty of times in my marriage, and my past relationships. No consistency. No respect.
I would even go as far finding a place to house/ rent a stable for the horse, and send her the bill. Arrange a public place locally for you to exchange the kids. Don't respond to chit chat, random phone calls or text messages. Don't allow her near the property unless she is legally entitled to. She is treating you like garbage that was thrown away in yesterdays trash heap. Set those boundaries and enforce them.
