Quick update. Rolled back the cameras at the house after she left last night and definitely confirmed what the counselor told me about the affair. He asked her about him and whether she was struggling with a decision on the M. She said yes and that the AP is a "good guy" and she feels a connection sexually with him. That sunk my heart into my stomach with a quickness. Also admitted that she had sex with me a few weeks ago to see if she felt anything and said she didn't feel anything and it bothered her. Then she began to complain about our prior sex life, how they can go 4x a day etc. That also just enraged me that much more. Sure, its easy to do that when you're off in fantasy land with zero responsibilities like running the household, cleaning and taking care of our kiddo. That's all been on me since the separation and frankly even before as she made it a point to never be around. Always "working" which I do see as she has two jobs currently but I always knew that when she went MIA via text for 12+ hours. I know what she was doing.
I have decided to go dark upon finding these details, changed the lock codes on the door and garage so she cannot "come and go" as she pleases. She was making trips to the house while I was at work when we were not staying together. So IMO she doesn't live here anymore so she doesn't need access to the house. I don't have a key to the trailer she purchased with "marital funds" she hid from working.
