I would like to know from the vets. When a WW starts to question her choices and the A fog lifts ever so slightly, is that not the time to be there for support rather than alienating her? Showing her that I'm the better option?
Curtis, let me quote back a few things you said:
"On Sunday morning, she confirmed that she is still in contact with OM3 and does not plan to end contact."
"talks and/or texts with him daily"
"Apparently, the feelings for OM3 and the “in love” A fog are too strong."
"It’s clear he is more important to her than me, our MR, and our family right now."
"She wrote that she sees how hard I’ve tried and how much I’ve changed. Yet, attraction has not returned."
"She wrote she can’t see a future together right now. "
"said she hasn’t felt like we were separated and she was completely off on her own. She wants to “feel separated."
In summary, she's still in an affair, she feels stuck to you even though you are separated and she wants to be on her own and "feel separated". HER FOG HAS NOT LIFTED ONE IOTA. This is not the time to try and be her best friend, because that is where you will stay. You want to show her you are the better option? Cut all contact with her. Tell her to get her horse out of there ASAP. Tell her you want her to respect your privacy and quit dropping by unannounced. Maybe then she will learn to miss you, because right now, she doesn't.
