Persistent Endurance (Part 6)

[MrBrside]

Re-quoting my last post before attending Retrouvaille and I would say that all-in-all it was a success. My goals were met. W is curious and looking back in my direction. I gained a load of insight on her feelings. She brought a very cooperative spirit, participated and gave genuine effort.

No, it was not a drastic 180 on her part, but we left the weekend in a more positive place than when we arrived. I was disappointed that we left early, likely because I had an expectation that we would commit to the entire program which included the 6 weekly follow-up sessions. The expectation wasn't good, and she picked up on that when we left. However, I still have hope.

Sorry but from an outsider looking in, this looks like you are in total la la land... Just what you have written shows where your head is at.. and its not a good place?

However, I still have hope.

Hope for what ? You have tried to justify why RV was a success, but the reality is that you are no better off than your were when you went. You say you have a better understanding of WW.. Sandy says it time and time again, and there are 100 people on here would you agree - Believe nothing they say!!... She played you and fed you a few crumbs, yet is still engaged to OM3... And you still have hope ????

I would like to know from the vets. When a WW starts to question her choices and the A fog lifts ever so slightly, is that not the time to be there for support rather than alienating her? Showing her that I'm the better option?

Icing on the cake ( she can carry on cake eating) comment to show how you are still the same person you were the day you joined this board..Harsh but true..

Disrespected, used, mentally abused even... and you are still bothered about looking like the BETTER option'... Why on earth would you want to be a better option for somebody like this. Would you ever trust her again - dont be a fool.. Sorry to say but she is damaged goods. And with damaged good, you dont use them, you get rid.

Be a BETTER YOU and get yourself into a BETTER place. A place with no horse, a place without her, a place where your children, own health and mental wellbeing are key - a place where you focus on BETTERING yourself... And in 12 months time, once you are in that place, consider a relationship with a BETTER person - NOT your WW.. She is not a good relationship candidate. At the moment you are still in love with your WW.. Once them goggles lift ( hence why i said a min 12 months before starting to look at other people ) you will see that your WW wasnt all that. There are 1000s of ladies out there.. Ladies that are not damaged like your WW. Ladies who are good relationship material. She is damaged and damaging you.. Move onwards and upwards.. Become BETTER for you are YOUR future.. Not Better for some WW who just uses and abuses.