I asked her do you plan on punishing me for the my past behavior to deflect from what you are doing now?
It appears that the answer is yes.
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I’ve lied, you’ve lied, I’ve hurt you and you are hurting me. How much is enough? Time to just let it go and start over anew. She can’t even commit to that
That's good logic, but she is not being logical. She is being emotional. The pursuit does not usually work. Read the links on pursuit.
She's obviously going to continue lying about the affair so you'd be best to quit discussing it.
Agreed and I plan on going dark after tonight’s episode. She knows where I stand and what I want. I have the papers ready and am still debating on filing as I don’t feel we are getting anywhere BUT as I stated before we never truly “separated” per say. She just simply moved out to not be accountable to me for not coming home, working late etc. in hindsight. I’ll definitely read up on the pursuit links.
I appreciate all your advice between my IC suggesting I file to send a message vs what I read and discuss with others I am really torn on what to do. I’m definitely holding off for a bit as we are only around 2 weeks out from me confronting her in regards to the affair.
