BPD WW in affair- Not sure what to do

[ovrrnbw]

I asked her do you plan on punishing me for the my past behavior to deflect from what you are doing now?

It appears that the answer is yes.

I’ve lied, you’ve lied, I’ve hurt you and you are hurting me. How much is enough? Time to just let it go and start over anew. She can’t even commit to that

That's good logic, but she is not being logical. She is being emotional. The pursuit does not usually work. Read the links on pursuit.

She's obviously going to continue lying about the affair so you'd be best to quit discussing it.