So it sounds like you are doing this out of desperation to control the outcome and bring her to her proverbial senses, right?
Are you prepared to be divorced and push this through? You're the one who will have to live with it.
I am because of all the betrayal and lies are mounting up. I was no perfect husband but just tonight she came over to get clothes and stuff she still had here which I boxed up. We talked about things some but she’s still in denial over the affair and is dragging the past up and saying I did this to us and she hasn’t done anything in regards to an affair. I asked her do you plan on punishing me for the my past behavior to deflect from what you are doing now? I’ve lied, you’ve lied, I’ve hurt you and you are hurting me. How much is enough? Time to just let it go and start over anew. She can’t even commit to that. Said she doesn’t even know if she wants to be with her husband. The one who has been faithful this entire time...oh but her affair never did or is going on according to her. Right....
I did break the news that I did meet with my lawyer on Monday and I sent a screenshot of the attachments but not the content so that she knows I’m dead serious about it. She said she doesn’t want to file yet and I’m still in the air honestly because I feel like if I do. It’s going to be the final nail in the coffin and there will be no hope for reconciliation. I asked if she wanted to see the counselor and she refused so I asked her is that because he knows what you were doing and you don’t want to face the consequences and questions regarding your actions? Again she said I haven’t done anything. Which is so frustrating. I’d love to believe my wife but I trust my gut and our therapist as he wouldn’t lie about it. I guess I could roll the ring cameras back and listen in on their session to confirm but I just dint feel right doing so.
