BPD WW in affair- Not sure what to do

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It basically broke down to the time frame our intimacy fell apart while still living together and before the accident.

Funny how that works, right? But remember there are things you can do in the future to build a better relationship (not necessarily with your W) that doesn't have these problems.

I still love her and want to help her with her mental issues but I feel like shes really forcing my hand and trying to control me and the relationship.

I guess the question is, are you willing to divorce her over this? My guess is yes because you already filed. Was that done out of principle or desperation?

Anyways, I'm sorry you are here. Read those links and read other situations. Make yourself into a great man and learn/heal/grow as much as you can.