I always advise people here that if they are thinking about filing, then WAIT. Wait a couple of months, and if you tell yourself every day that yes, you want to file and you are OK with D then at the end of two months go ahead and file. But if you have second thoughts during that time then you're not ready.
If you changed your mind then withdraw it. Yes it might make you look weak to her, but if you're not ready then you're not ready. If she asks why then just tell her you decided you needed more time to think about it.
Cadet or Job will be along shortly with a lot of links, read them, they will help! Also pick up DR and read it.
