I met someone divorced since 2007 and her mental wounds were still really fresh.
Unfortunately some people just really struggle with moving on. My brother has been divorced for 10+ years and still harbors so much anger and resentment towards his XW. He's never even so much as gone out on a date again, just basically hates on all women because of his XW leaving him. It doesn't have to be that way, many of us here have moved on and have new relationships that are often far better than our marriages were. And we have a new appreciation for it and work a lot harder to maintain it.
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Seems it all boils down to you doing the work, and being able to make yourself whole before going out to find someone else.
Yes this is very true. We often tell people not to rush into dating after going through BD because that has a way of masking things and preventing us from doing the personal work we should be doing to move on (or recon) in a more positive manner.
