The tax issue has been solved. I ran some numbers showing her different ways of doing it, and basically, doing things her way resulted in her owing me about 10 grand, so we are going with my way. I'll send my taxes in this evening.
After our discussion, she left the country for a few weeks to take care of her mom, so I sent an email basically saying I didn't feel like I was very important to her. We are supposed to be reconciling, but she hadn't asked me to get together in the 8 weeks we've been "reconciling" except to talk about the taxes. I mentioned some other issues that she brought up during our tax conversation, and said that it seems the only reason she wanted to reconcile was money.
Her reply focused almost entirely on the other issues. I emailed back and told her that I should have left the other issues out because the main point, that I didn't feel important to her, seemed to have been missed. I said she talks a good game, but her actions haven't backed up her words. I said I thought I might be wasting my time hoping for something that's never going to happen. She hasn't replied.
The good news is, I'm good. My taxes are done, and if she doesn't start acting like I'm important to her as soon as she gets home, I'm good with moving on. This will also solve the marriage counselling question, too, because if she acts like I'm important to her, we won't need to go, and if she doesn't, we won't need to go then, either.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
