Hi SBJ and sjohn6,

Overall, life is good. Relationships with kids are great. Lots of unexpected professional success. Relationship with w continues to slowly get better, but has its ups and downs, as she has her ups and downs. I try to remember my hard earned skills to listen, not try and fix her, to provide assistance and advice when asked. Sometimes she opens up to me and cries and other times she keeps to herself. We are in the same bed but she desires no marital intimacy. When I get down, I pray and count my blessings. I remind myself that this is a marathon and not a sprint, dig for more patience and cling to the belief that this will continue to get better over time. I still get triggered on occasion but those times are fewer and farther in between. Thank you for all the support you have offered these three long years. I think of and pray for all of you often.


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving