Yeah it definitely felt that way to me too. Tonight I went to an event at D4s school and when I got home H had just put D4 to bed. He sat down and started asking me about the event, and asking me lots of questions about the teachers, and about how I’m doing and how my days have been going. We talked more than we have in a long time, just sitting and chatting. We laughed a lot. We talked about work and exercise, all kinds of random things. We haven’t talked like that in ages. Then he asks me if I read the article he sent me. (He texted me an article about coparenting a few days ago). I hadn’t; it was an academic paper was incredibly dense. Quite honestly, I highly doubt he has read it. And honestly, the moment I got it my spider sense kicked in and I wondered who had given it to him. I told him I’d skimmed it but that it was very long and very dense. He has never been much of a reader so I joked that I was surprised to get such dense reading from him. I asked where it had come from. He said “ a therapist mom I know gave it to me”. I was pleasantly surprised that he might be in IC so I said “ oh you’re seeing a therapist?” And he got weird and said no, that it’s a woman he’s seeing who is a therapist. I felt toyed with and goaded and very triggered. I kept pretty calm and I said that while I can appreciate sharing of coparenting related material, this just felt weird and biased. I said I wouldn’t do that to you, so please don’t send me articles about provided to you by your girlfriend. He acted like he had no idea why that would be an issue, making wincing faces and said it won’t happen again. I am proud of the way I handled myself but WHAT THE F**** This combined with the temp taking and the fact that he has been more friendly and flirty then ever lately has me spinning. Was this more temp testing, to see if I’d get jealous? To see if I’d lash out and prove him right about my shortcomings? Is he just completely screwing with me by pulling me in and then dropping that he’s seeing someone?
I would love to hear wisdom, insight, and thoughts from the vets, please!
