22 years gone

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I am not sure. If the therapist meets with XW, D13 has already said she will never go back to therapy. That was the problem we had with her last therapist and it took a lot of convincing to get her to go. I need D13 in therapy to work on herself so she doesn't become a danger to herself.

D13 has had to go through most of what us adults on this board have gone through. The lieing, coldness, abandonment, left for another daughter. She witnessed the affair without XW realizing, when dropped off for activities daughter asked her to stay but mom told her no she was to busy, saw and heard all the vileness that comes from WW wife at the time, was lied too, felt traded in for OM daughter, witnessed her mom and grandma get into a physical fight, saw her mom go into a manic state while in Hawaii a trip birthday trip planned for D13 since she was in first grade, as a child was made to stand in the corner because mom didn't want to deal with her while vacuuming, yelled at for not being good enough for getting B+'s in class, being told you have a special bond with your dad but not me, abandoned for the summer, felt her mom has ignored her for the past couple years, feels mom is laying a guilt trip on her for not wanting to be with her, and is being told by her mom it is her fault for her mom not spending time with her this summer. The list is actually much longer.

Do WAW/WW realize the damage done to a teenager? My XW can't understand D13 because in her mind all she did was break up with me and nothing more. Meanwhile, once a week I hold my screaming daughter in my arms. You know how hard it is to not hate my XW when I have to see my daughter in this much pain. Prying my daughter out of my arms because she has to go to XW house. Praying that she doesn't end her life because she hurts so bad. Somehow I am suppose to forgive and become indifferent towards XW? Will the anger for what she has done and is doing to D13 ever go away? Has anyone had this happen? I am sorry right now I hate that women more than anything and that includes my alcoholic biological dad who molested me as a child. I hurt not for what has been done to me but for what I see my daughter going through. I hate that women!