Great job! Yes, we have to force ourselves to “think” rationally about the fears. I am so happy for you that it worked.
I agree with the others - H is showing his true colours. And his lawyer pleading to just please settle this - yeah they see what’s up. My XW’s lawyer wasn’t too eager to represent her again for the actual divorce. He just wanted her out of his office.
H is one angry sounding guy. Yikes! His behaviours, not willing to get a job, yelling, and so on, are getting himself painted into a corner. He has taken lots of rope and is wrapping around his negotiating neck. You are doing really fine. Keep staying calm and leaving your emotions out of this. Remember - “Bravery” and “Just Business”. I know the legalities of this look weird, and seen to be a waste taxpayer money, however trust there are reasons for the extraordinarily long due process H is getting.
What are you writing on the calendar for October 23rd?
I will also add that H is desperate; and desperate people do desperate things. Stay sharp and on top of your assets and finances. And not to be a fear monger; do watch your’s and the kids safety.
I am more than a bit curious as to what is going to happen on October 1 with H’s stuff in storage. Only a few days away. Ah, whatever, time will tell what he does.
So...
With slippered foot firmly planted in interlocked fingers - What are your (fearless) plans for the next few weeks?
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
